Step 3: Spot Red Flags

Be alert for inconsistencies in stories or exaggerated claims. If someone refuses to share their address or says they’re a “government agent,” they might be hiding something important.

Step 4: Observe Home Behavior

Spend time at their place and look for clues—such as unknown prescriptions, women's belongings, or suspicious mail. Use Google to identify medicines and their purposes if needed.

Step 5: Interactions with Family & Ex-Partners

Observe how they treat their parents, siblings, kids, and ex-partners. Look for signs of affection or emotional instability. Dysfunctional behavior may signal deeper issues.

Step 6: Legal & Financial Background Check

• Check criminal records using Aadhaar, DOB, and past addresses
• Search CIBIL reports, bankruptcy filings, and property disputes
• Verify divorce documents for abuse claims or restraining orders

Step 7: Cultivate Trusted Sources

Speak with the girlfriends or wives of his close friends. They often know private details from pillow talk. Stay respectful and discreet.

Step 8: Shadow with Caution

If you choose to follow him, use rented vehicles, cameras, or recorders. Take notes of locations and behaviors, but don’t take risks if you feel unsafe.

Step 9: Finding Past Relationships

If you suspect dishonesty, trace past girlfriends using old letters, photos, or directories. Past court cases may reveal restraining orders or judgments.

Know When to Walk Away

If you find evidence of a double life, aggression, or lies — especially multiple IDs or hidden children — leave immediately. Your safety and peace of mind come first.

Final Note: If the investigation becomes dangerous or complex, consider hiring a licensed private investigator. Always prioritize your emotional and physical safety.

Step 10: Investigating Social Media & Online Presence

Social media can provide insights into your partner’s past relationships, activities, and social circles. Search their profiles on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter for potential inconsistencies, hidden posts, or unusual interactions. Look for red flags like:

• Frequent deletions of past posts or relationships
• Secretive online behavior (locked profiles, hidden friends)
• Frequent connections to ex-partners or suspicious contacts

Step 11: Conduct a Financial Background Check

Financial stability is crucial when considering a lifelong commitment. Investigate the financial status of your partner by:

• Checking credit reports (with permission)
• Assessing liabilities (loans, debts, property disputes)
• Exploring if they have been involved in any fraudulent activities

Financial issues can lead to stress in a relationship, so understanding your partner’s financial health before marriage is key to avoiding future problems.

Step 12: Conduct a Medical Background Check (if necessary)

If your relationship is moving toward marriage, it’s also important to have an understanding of your partner's medical history. While this is a sensitive area, some signs can help reveal potential issues:

• Frequent doctor's appointments without explanation
• Multiple prescriptions for psychiatric drugs or chronic conditions
• Concealed medical records or reluctance to discuss personal health matters

Knowing about your partner's health, especially if it involves genetic conditions or contagious diseases, will ensure that you're prepared for your future together.

Step 13: Understand Their Relationship History

A thorough understanding of your partner's previous relationships can offer valuable insights. You can:

• Talk to their ex-partners to get an honest perspective of past dynamics
• Look for patterns of toxic or manipulative behavior
• Check for past accusations of abuse or infidelity (if applicable)

Knowing their relationship patterns can help you understand how they might behave in a future relationship and whether they are truly ready for a serious commitment.

Step 14: Check Their Online Dating History

If your partner has a history of online dating, this might reveal patterns of behavior that need to be addressed. Look for:

• Profiles on multiple dating apps or websites
• Messages to others that indicate they were active on the dating scene
• Patterns of short-term relationships or serial dating

While a dating history doesn’t always indicate a red flag, understanding their approach to relationships can give you more clarity about their intentions.

Step 15: Be Cautious About Family & Friend Influence

Sometimes, people are influenced by their families or friends in ways that may not be apparent at first. For example:

• Family pressure for a quick marriage or pushing them into a commitment
• Friends who are overly protective or manipulative

Observe how your partner interacts with their family and friends. Manipulation or control tactics could be a sign of deeper issues. Be sure to establish clear boundaries and understand their family dynamics.

Step 16: The Final Decision – What Should You Do If You Find Red Flags?

If you find clear indications of deceit, financial problems, emotional instability, or dangerous behavior during your DIY investigation, it's important to take a step back. Consider these options:

• Talk openly with your partner about the concerns that have come to light
• Seek the advice of a trusted friend or family member for support
• If the situation involves serious abuse or dishonesty, walk away from the relationship

Trust your instincts. If something feels off, it's essential to address it immediately. A truthful relationship starts with honesty and transparency—anything less should not be tolerated.